Why does my child want to hurt his or her sibling?
Everything in your home starts with seed. It is how you came into existence… how your children came into existence… (it’s how your parents and their parents and their parents and … came into existence.)
A seed reproduces its one genetic program. What is it?
You are carrying a genetic spiritual seed. It is not visible to the natural eye. It is not visible to your doctor, boss, in-laws, professors, neighbors...
Your spouse or child’s other parent may not be able to see it.
But this seed has marked your soul. And it is designed to propagate itself. So it has also marked your children’s souls.
This seed reproduces self-righteous, self-seeking, self-conscious, self-protecting, even self-condemning or self-destructive thoughts and behaviors.
When that soul-seed causes you to dislike your self (and when it causes your child to dislike themselves), it creates destructive attitudes toward itself AND OTHERS.
If you want peace in your home, you cannot ignore the propagated seed
When a sibling wants to hurt their sibling, they are driven to destroy their sibling’s worth, power, voice or hope by their pre-programed seed.
Why? Their spiritual seed/design/program (picture it as a soul-seed) is from a fallen source. That fallen seed does not have its own worth, power, voice or hope intact. It’s trying to meet its own need for worth, power, voice…
Parental abuse, comparisons, rejection or favoritism are symptoms of that seed you carry. Those attitudes and behaviors will feed an aggressive child’s drive to destroy.
Your and your children’s issues are simply the fruit of your fallen soul-seed. You likely experienced these issues with your parents.
That seed propagates from an original lie that has plagued every human parent… all the way back to our first human parents.
How do I stop my children from hurting each other?
When a sibling wants to hurt their sibling, they are driven to steal or destroy their sibling’s worth, power, expression or hope.
What drives this? A knowingly aggressive sibling doesn’t have their own worth, power, voice or hope intact. Parental abuse, comparisons, rejection or favoritism can worsen their drive to destroy. But parental issues are not the root problem.
Parental issues feed a deeper underlying internal lie that plagues the heart of every fallen human. That lie is driven by the twisted program that came through your fallen seed.
You need to be set free from that old genetic program in order to set your children free!
Have you felt DRIVEN to get your own needs met?
You need to be set free from that old genetic program. Listen here for the solution…
When you’re free, then you can start to free your children.
Feeling like you must plow over whoever’s in the way of you meeting that “need”? Like the need to get to school or church or a basketball game on time? Or get your career goals or promotion? Or make your kids behave? Or have your spouse say the right thing in front of your in-laws? Or wear the right outfit, drive the right car, or live in the right neighborhood?
Have you found yourself using someone (at their expense) to meet YOUR goals? Or simply snap at your children… or spouse… if they got in the way or interfered with you getting to needed to go?
Have you ever felt like you could just LOSE YOUR COOL if something does not go right? If something deviates and does not go as expected? If someone says something to you?
Have you ever felt JUDGED for your parenting? Peeked over at another parent to measure or compare yourself? To assess how YOU are doing?
Why are people DRIVEN?