TODAY DAD: start to make ONENESS WITH YOUR SPOUSE your #1 GOAL
You may feel discouraged over your parenting because of your past performance. But thankfully the Word of God declares “Now is the day of Salvation!”
NOW is a brand-new day of parenting.
If you’ll believe Him and allow Him, Jesus’ Cross will erase the record held against you. All the condemnation, legal demands and punishment you deserve is no longer yours to carry.
(Please take the time to read or listen to Colossians 1:13 - 2:15…)
Now rejoice! God wills for you to REJOICE! He is near to you. He loves your wife and kids more than you. He doesn’t need you be stuck as the guilt-ridden parent you were yesterday.
He is your peace. He is your righteousness! God desires more than anything to LIVE IN YOU and transform you into His holy image from the inside of you.
Allow His Spirit to come in to you to make you HIS greatest treasure.
Now instead of giving up on your wife and giving her over to the darkness of this world, take YOUR STAND for her as her covering!
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become ONE flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)
“So they are no longer two, but ONE flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Jesus, Matthew 19:5-6)
Now instead of giving up your God-given parental rights, or handing your God-given authority to this lost world… take YOUR STAND to truly father your son or daughter in love.
Then immediately do this with all humility and honesty:
Apologize to your spouse… and express your regret for disregarding her worth as the mother of your children (if you’ve done this in the past).
Forgive your spouse if she has undermined your authority. Tell your spouse: “I love and forgive you!”
Tell your children that you and your spouse are getting on the same page.
Apologize for the confusion caused by not being on the same page yesterday.
If you’re the “softer” parent, admit your over-softness isn’t helping make things better for your children… and you will be getting more firm.
If you’ve been the “harsher” parent, admit your over-harshness was too much… and you’ll be lightening up.
Pray with your family daily, asking God to keep perfecting you all.
(For more practical suggestions, please consider purchasing Dr. Jonathan Caspi’s book “Raising Loving Siblings.”